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How Do I Know Who To Trust?

How Do I Know Who To Trust?

Ticket One Denied. Ticket Two denied. This has to be a mistake, we thought as we entered the Capital One stadium SUPER excited to attend a concert in Washington, DC. We were in utter disbelief as the ticket agent told us our tickets were counterfeit and wrote VOID in big black bold letters across the QR code. 

We bought those tickets from what seemed to be a legitimate seller. We talked to him, negotiated a fair plan for a transaction, and waited to receive an email from Ticketmaster Support before transferring funds. What seemed to be an honest transaction was nothing but a huge scam.

Here’s a snippet of our emotional roller coaster: immediate anger, followed by feeling pretty duped, onward to thinking this person was a highly sophisticated Craigslist scammer by avoiding any moves that would raise red flags. 

OUR EMOTIONAL ROLLER COASTER

OUR EMOTIONAL ROLLER COASTER

Given all of the above, I think the final two parts of this emotional roller coaster are worth delving into as lessons learned for future life experiences.

1. How we can trust people again?

This question rings true as we travel abroad and within our own neighborhoods. We live in a time where we are bombarded with terror threats, social media outlets, talking heads, and other questionable voices that our first instinct is to question a person’s motive before trusting. I understand this part of  human nature, but I do not accept. I try my best to flip the thought coin; to listen to perspective, have an open mind, and make decisions on how I feel about a person’s energy and how they resonate with me AFTER an interaction. I try, but as we know, each situation is unique. However, this does lead me to the second question we asked ourselves.

2. Did we have an instinct that we didn’t pay attention to?

Looking back on our experience, there was an inkling of doubt in our minds when the Ticketmaster app didn’t instantly upload our tickets to our account. We thought it was strange, but the email from Ticketmaster Support said it could take a few hours, and we had the ability to print the tickets out. The seller also was texting us asking why it was taking us so long to transfer funds upon receipt of these tickets, and that HE was going to report us to the police. The sense of urgency seemed strange, oddly making us feel like criminals.

Our Lessons Learned:

1. Don’t buy tickets on Craigslist.

2. One occurrence will not ruin my life forever.

3. I will continue to TRUST that little voice called my intuition. Once I learn how to trust myself, placing trust in people and situations will be a little easier.

These lessons are a part of life. The real trick is how we apply what we have learned at work, at home, when we are on vacation; and with essentially everything we do in our daily lives. 

TRUST YOUR INSTINCT - IT'S EVERYTHING.

TRUST YOUR INSTINCT - IT'S EVERYTHING.

How to Set a Mantra to Find Your Truth

How to Set a Mantra to Find Your Truth

Mantras are deeply rooted in various eastern religions such as Buddhism and Hinduism. An active practice of repeating a sound or phrase over and over, mantras unlock power in each of us seeking truth.

Whatever lifestyle choice you choose, we all are seeking truth. Whether you are living the traveler, entrepreneurial, or 9-5 lifestyle, we are all using our experiences to come to some understanding of truth. Often, the road will get difficult. You will fail, or feel lonely, or feel like you just can’t do it. Setting a mantra will give you something to come back to, to focus on, and to find strength in.

While this seems simple in theory, in practice, the work is hard. Setting your mantra can be seemingly unapproachable. Sitting with your mantra can be uncomfortable.

YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU KNOW. GIVE YOURSELF THE RIGHT TO BE STRONG.

YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU KNOW. GIVE YOURSELF THE RIGHT TO BE STRONG.


Here are 5 ways to create a mantra to find your truth:

1. Be inspired: Mantras are a deeply personal experience but being inspired by other people’s mantras allows you to play with different mantras. Whether you start by chanting “om” or borrow words from others that you feel drawn to, playing with various mantras can help you find something that speaks to your inner truth.

2. Allow your mantra to serve you: My (current) mantra is “I am enough”. It comes from a place where I often feel like I am not enough. Turning to my mantra in moments of self-defeat often changes my perception and helps me shift my mindset to one that is encouraging and empowering. By changing the way you speak to yourself, you allow yourself to show yourself kindness.

 

WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU TOLD YOURSELF YOU WERE ENOUGH? 

WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU TOLD YOURSELF YOU WERE ENOUGH? 

 

3. Commit to a mantra: Your first mantra may not be the best one, but commit to it for a few days. Settle with it. You will find that sticking to a mantra, even for a short time, allows you to go deeper inside the mantra. Sometimes all you need is to know that a mantra is available to you, even if its not your mantra.

4. Repetition: One of the best mentors I have ever had tells her students to repeat their mantra 20 times to themselves and to come back come back to it if their mind wanders. Tell yourself something true, forgive yourself if you lose it, and come back to it. Repeat this. How beautiful is that practice?

5. Live your mantra: In the moments that life is hard or you feel overwhelmed, know your mantra is within you. You can come back to it at any moment. You only need the permission of yourself to go back to it. Live your mantra and your mantra will come alive.

GO FIND YOUR TRUTH. YOU CAN DO THIS!

GO FIND YOUR TRUTH. YOU CAN DO THIS!


Mantras work in mysterious ways, but remain open to the possibility that your mantra will be there when you need it. The work that you today on your mantra will build the foundation for your life tomorrow.

This piece was written by Travel Expert, Jennifer DeSimone.  Need help setting your mantra? Reach out to Jennifer via Facebook or via email at Jennifer@theartofintentions